Friday Night at Home Alone: A Revelation

So as usual I'm chillin at home by myself tonight, and I felt the little monster of loneliness start pestering me, so I decided to look up some different things I would like to do sometime in the near future (I would love to fit one in before school starts up but I just don't think it's gonna happen...) and I started realizing all of the wonderful things about my life as a happily single woman. In fact the evening became a time of self-discovery and personal revelation.

If you go online you can find lots of fun blogs and books about being single, whether that singleness is by choice, for life, from the end of a relationship, or a stage you're going through on your way to married life. Here is probably my favorite discovery of the night: http://queenofrelationships.com/ten-reasons-its-great-to-be-single/ This is an awesome and hilarious blog post that really does bring the perks of single life into the forefront. Read it. It will make you laugh. It will make you appreciate your life right now. And it might help chase away those single-blues that all of us face from time to time.

I personally am beginning to believe more and more that I will be single for life. And you know what? I'm becoming more and more ok with that. Actually, I'm becoming more and more excited about that!

I've struggled with the common Christian mindset that the job of a good Christian girl is to marry a good Christian man and raise a good little Christian family. There is pressure everywhere telling me and other singles out there that we're "missing something" because we're not married, and that we have to wait for love to come along so that we can start living. That God has a "better plan" for us that involves a man or woman who has to "complete" us.

Well, if that's true I'm screwed. In fact I'm learning that nothing could be farther from the truth. God DOES have a better plan for our lives than we could ever dream of, but I am becoming convinced that often has extremely little to do with our relationship status and everything to do with how we live for God.

I worry that so many single people, inlcuding myself and my single friends, are wasting this awesome time in our lives waiting for that special someone to come along before we start LIVING! Life isn't what starts when you get married. Life is NOW! Life is what you do with every day, whether you're single, dating, or married, You can choose to make the most of each day without a ring on your finger.

So don't you dare let anyone, including yourself, make you miss out on what your life is right now! Make plans, chase a dream, build your career, get a pet, buy a house, move to a new city, take a trip, do whatever it is that God wants for your life right now. And then KEEP DOING IT!

God made you a WHOLE person, not a half.